Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Monday, August 22, 2016

Angry Asian American Parenting Guide | AngryAsianMan.com



Thanks to Angry Asian Man for inviting me to guest post on AngryAsianMan.com!
When my oldest child was about 10 years old, I wrote an Asian American parenting book, because I knew everything and had four perfect children. Unfortunately, I did not publish that book then, because my children soon became teenagers, and suddenly I knew nothing and did everything wrong. Now, with two children off to college, one child with a perfect ACT score, and one more who is very tall, I am finally starting to get my confidence back. 
So when I see younger Asian American friends struggle through the many challenges of raising Asian American babies, well, I just LOL. 
Here are some of my best unsolicited Angry Asian American parenting tips for raising strong, proud, and ANGRY Asian American children.
Angry Asian American Parenting Guide

Monday, August 1, 2016

On Twitter, Muslim-American Women Ask Trump: #CanYouHearUsNow? - NBC News

my article for NBC Asian America
"A Muslim lady went to your rally Mr.Trump, it was you who did not let her speak not her Muslim husband!#CanYouHearUsNow"
"he's lucky it wasn't my auntie. She'd back that op-ed with a burgundy slipper boomeranged to his head."
 On Twitter, Muslim-American Women Ask Trump: #CanYouHearUsNow? - NBC News

Saturday, February 6, 2016

RECIPE: For Love of Dumplings

My grandmother's dumpling recipe from an article long long ago...

Wang Family Dumpling Recipe (Makes 45-50 dumplings)
By Frances Kai-Hwa Wang, AAV Contributing Editor

[Continued from For Love of Dumplings]
UPDATED: alternate link here http://generaltpwang.com/remembrances/for-love-of-dumplings

Dough
3 cups flour
1 cup water (may need 1 additional teaspoon of water if dough is too hard)

Put flour in food processor (or a large bowl), add water slowly and mix/knead until a nice dough forms. Knead again on a floured cutting board. Cover with a damp cloth and let dough rest 1 hour while you make the filling.

Meat Filling
1 lb ground pork
2 green onions, chopped fine (do not use food processor)
1 slice ginger, minced
1 clove garlic, minced
1 tsp salt
1 tsp sugar
1 Tbl soy sauce
1 Tbl cornstarch
1 egg
¼ head of a Chinese/Napa cabbage, chopped fine (easiest to do in a food processor, but make sure the leaves are completely dry before you do so)—add a little salt and squeeze out the liquid. (As alternatives, you can also use ¼ head of American cabbage or 1 rice bowl full of finely chopped Chinese/garlic chives, neither of which need to be salted or squeezed. You can use a food processor to chop the cabbage, but not for the chives.)

Mix everything together.


Making the Wrappers or “Skins” (pi)


Shape the dough into a long cylinder about one inch in diameter, and cut the cylinder into ½ inch pieces. Roll each wad of dough into a ball just smaller than a walnut. Flatten each ball slightly with your palm, and dust with flour. It is important that they are all exactly the same size and shape. Then, on a floured cutting board, use a Chinese rolling pin (basically a one inch dowel) to roll from the outside of the flattened ball towards the center, then turn the ball a little, and repeat—roll, turn, roll, turn, roll, turn—until you get a relatively round, flat wrapper, about three inches in diameter. Ideally it should have a slight “pillow” in the center.


First tip: When you buy rolling pins at your local Chinese market (or lumber yard), buy three or four so that more than one person can roll the wrappers at a time while the rest of the people fill them. This is especially important if you are just learning how to make them. They should cost $1 to $3 each.


Second tip: You could forget about making the wrappers and just buy them already made. You can buy a package of 45 for about $1 at your local Chinese market. They are machine made, so they are not as thick or as good as homemade, but are a million times easier. They will be called either dumpling or potsticker wrappers (jiao tze pi or guo tie pi). The wrappers intended for potstickers will be slightly thicker than the ones for dumplings. Buy the thicker ones if you can for a dumpling with more bite. The wrappers must be round. Won ton wrappers and egg roll wrappers are square and will not work.




Filling the Dumplings


To make the dumpling, put one wrapper in the palm of your left hand and put a tablespoon of filling in the middle. The beginner’s way to seal the dumpling is to then fold the wrapper in half and press the edges together so that the dumpling assumes a half-circle shape. If you are using store-bought wrappers, dip your finger in some water, then run it along the outer edge of the wrapper before sealing.


Another way to seal the dumpling is to fold the dumpling in half and make one pinch in the center of the half circle. Then pinch together the right corner, then pinch together the dough between the corner and the middle. Repeat on the other side. Seal whatever gaps remain. The dumpling will sit up in a slightly curved shape.


There are many ways to crimp dumplings, but somebody may have to show you how, because it is too hard to explain with words. The key is to seal each dumpling tightly, without any meat or vegetables hanging out of the seam or else it will fall apart during cooking. Using less filling will help, although you want them to be as fat as possible.




Cooking the Dumplings


Bring a large pot of water to a boil. Put in 25-30 dumplings, and stir. Wait for the pot to come back up to a hard boil, then douse it with one cup of water. Wait for the pot to come back up to a boil, then douse it again. Repeat one more time (you bring the dumplings up to a boil a total of three times). They will float when done. Taste one to make sure. Do not overcook or the dumplings will fall apart. Lift out the dumplings with a bamboo strainer and put them on several large dinner plates to serve family style.




Dipping Sauce


Sometimes restaurants will mix the dipping sauce for you in the kitchen, but it is better if you mix it yourself to fit your own tastes. My father, for instance, prefers more vinegar; my mother prefers more soy sauce; I like a touch of sesame oil; my Aunt Suzie uses Worchester sauce. We keep soy sauce and vinegar in a set of pretty oil and vinegar bottles to bring to the table just for when we eat dumplings. Start by pouring equal portions, about a tablespoon each, of soy sauce and vinegar into your rice bowl, then add Chinese hot sauce to taste and maybe one drop of sesame oil. I like to use balsamic vinegar because it is spicier, but most people use rice wine vinegar or apple cider vinegar. Also, I think Yank Sing Chili Pepper Sauce is best, but any black bean hot sauce will work. In Shandong province where my other grandparents are from, dumplings are served with a raw clove of garlic, and you are supposed to take one bite of the garlic then one bite of your dumpling. That’s hot! For special occasions, you can also add garlic and ginger and cilantro to the dip, but I find them unnecessary if you have a good hot sauce.
1 Tbl soy sauce
1 Tbl vinegar
½ tsp Chinese hot sauce
1 drop of sesame oil (optional)




Frances’ Vegetarian Dumpling Filling


A good vegetarian dumpling is very hard to find, which is why I always make them from scratch. The filling should have the texture and bite of a meat dumpling to be really satisfying, and you need more than cabbage for it to taste good. If you substitute other vegetables, use your eye to see that amounts and colors are balanced. Mince ingredients one at a time in a food processor, then transfer to a big bowl. If you do not have a food processor, then you will have a lot of chopping to do. Try to get all the pieces about the same size so they can bind together more easily. Cook them very gently as they break apart much more easily than meat dumplings.


First soak 6-8 black mushrooms and 1 small package of bean thread vermicelli (1.31 oz.) together in boiling water for 30 minutes.


Then finely mince and mix the following in a large bowl:
1 package of pressed tofu (tofu gan)—there are usually 4 squares in a package, with each square about 2 inches in diameter and ½ inch thick
2 carrots
1 small 8 oz. can of water chestnuts—drained, rinsed, and minced
1 bunch of spinach or ¼ head Chinese/Napa or American cabbage—washed and dried (very important that the leaves are dry or else you will end up with green mush) and minced carefully in small batches in food processor
4 green onions or 1 rice bowl full of finely chopped Chinese/garlic chives (do not use Chinese chives if you are using spinach—too much green)
2-4 cloves garlic
½ bunch cilantro leaves (optional)
The 6-8 rehydrated black mushrooms


The small package of rehydrated bean thread vermicelli—make sure they are all cut very short or they will get caught in the seam when you are folding the dumplings
1 raw egg
2 Tbl soy sauce
2 Tbl cornstarch
1 Tbl sesame oil
1 tsp salt


If there is excess water in the bottom of the bowl, tilt the bowl to drain the water away from the filling.






Prepping Leftovers


As the dumplings begin to cool, they will stick to the plate and get soggy underneath. Pick up any leftover dumplings with your chopsticks and turn them over so that their undersides can air dry. Make sure they are not touching each other or they will stick. Before you go to bed, cover the plate with plastic wrap, and in the morning you can pan fry them in oil for breakfast. My favorite.






Cooking Potstickers and Steamed Dumplings


Boiled dumplings, potstickers, and steamed dumplings are basically the same thing, cooked in different ways. Potstickers technically should have slightly thicker skins and can be longer, and steamed dumplings can also be round.


To cook potstickers, put 2 Tbl oil in a flat frying pan. Arrange the dumplings neatly around the pan like the petals of a flower, and fry for one minute over medium heat until the bottoms are browned. Then add one cup of water, covering almost ¾ of the dumplings. Cover tightly and cook over medium heat until the water is almost all gone. Uncover and move the dumplings around a little. Turn up the heat a bit and let the rest of the water evaporate. Pour in a dash of vinegar. Cover the pan with a plate and flip the dumplings upside down onto the plate so that their golden brown bottoms are facing up, and serve. You should be able to fit about 18 in your frying pan at one time.


To steam dumplings, put them in a lined bamboo steamer, cover, and steam over boiling water until done. Steaming is a good way to go for vegetarian dumplings because they are more delicate and break apart more easily when cooking. You can buy two tiered bamboo steamers at your local Chinese market, kitchen store, or for $10 at Target.

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Family Secrets From India to the U.S. in 'Don't Let Him Know' - NBC News.com

My article in NBC News Asian America about Sandip Roy's debut novel:
I wanted to tell the story of the burden of being good, the good son, the good wife, the good father, which I think Asians know a thing or two about. I wanted to explore the difference between being happy and being contented. 'Don't Let Him Know' begins with a young Indian American in California finding an old letter which he thinks reveals a secret he does not know about his mother. But as we discover, even secrets carry secrets within them.
Family Secrets From India to the U.S. in 'Don't Let Him Know' - NBC News.com

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

A New Thanksgiving Tradition, Born of a Family's Separation - NBC News.com

An Essay--first in a long time--for NBC News Asian America about Thanksgiving Eve without half the kids:
Our guests bring tandoori chicken, vegetarian pulao, Sri Lankan chicken curry, Chinese red-cooked duck, Taiwanese oiled rice, sushi, sashimi, kimbap, mochi, Thai butternut squash, hummus and baba ghanoush. We don't even bother with turkey.
A New Thanksgiving Tradition, Born of a Family's Separation - NBC News.com

Monday, September 22, 2014

AARP Film Asks, Are Families Ready to Care for Their Elderly? - NBC News.com

my article at nbc asian america:
According to a 2001 AARP multicultural survey, 73 percent of Asian Americans feel that children are expected to take care of their parents in their old age, as opposed to 57 percent of Hispanic Americans, 52 percent of blacks, and 47 percent of whites.
AARP Film Asks, Are Families Ready to Care for Their Elderly? - NBC News.com

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Kartika Review, Fall 2013, Issue 16, " Grandfather Walking"


So excited to be included in the latest issue of Kartika Review, Fall 2013, Issue 16. Go to page 109 to read my creative nonfiction piece, "Grandfather Walking," featuring the photography of Jyoti Omi Chowdhury.


Great articles and interviews with Li-Young Li and David Mura, too.


Thanks to Lac Su for introducing me and thanks to editor Jennifer Derilo for everything!

Monday, May 14, 2012

Chicago is the World » El dia de nuestras madres في اليوم من أمهاتنا The Day of Our Mothers

Thanks to Chicago is the World's Stephen Franklin for this: 


"Sun’s up, blue skies.
Running out to pick up flowers on Mother’s Day and what else?
But then I’m snagged by Frances’ essay that I start and can’t s stop"


click on link for more: Chicago is the World » El dia de nuestras madres في اليوم من أمهاتنا The Day of Our Mothers

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Chicago is the World » When Mother’s Day Goes Awry

Big Brother Roland called today to see what my plans were for Mother’s Day and to ask if I wanted to join him and his family in case the children were not with me this day. He is always looking out for me and invites me every year.

I declined, as always, because I will be writing (and buying an iPhone). A sudden burst of inspiration and opportunity has me writing constantly these days, even in my dreams.

However, it does feel strange to realize that this will be the first time ever that I will not be able to be with my children for Mother’s Day. Their dad wanted to take them somewhere this weekend. No, it did not make much sense to me either, but we have this fight every year.

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Jamie and Jordan - Ann Arbor Observer

Jamie and Jordan, which returns on April 28 as part of the monthly Performance Network children's theater series, is a charming musical about two boys born in the same hospital on the same day who become best friends until a twist of fate (and ankle) separates them, with lessons about healthy lifestyle and healthy friendship. It is not so hard for adults to guess where this story is going to go, but how it gets there is a delight--and not heavy-handed at all. There are laughs. There are tears. There are great lines like "Your mom has some cut-up fruit on the dining table." Parents can lecture for years before kids see the consequences--both good and bad--that this play shows clearly and convincingly in one hour.

click here for more: Jamie and Jordan - Ann Arbor Observer

Thursday, April 19, 2012

How to Raise Strong and Confident Asian Pacific American Daughters | InCultureParent

An old article suddenly starting new conversations about apa girl power and leadership workshops...interested?

A few years ago, I took a seminar called, “Raising Strong and Confident Daughters.” My husband laughed at me. “Could our daughters 
be any stronger or more confident?” 

The class was an eye-opener for me, not just in how to raise my girls, but also in understanding my own Chinese-American childhood. I had no memory of dealing with a lot of the issues the instructor talked about as being so important to pre-adolescent girls, such as friendship and physical appearance. 

At first I thought that I must have been just so low on the social totem pole—because of race and nerdiness—that I had given up hope of competing in those arenas; I never even tried. 

Then I came across a Wellesley College study of Boston middle-school girls’ self-esteem along racial and ethnic lines and discovered that girls of different ethnic backgrounds based their sense of self-esteem on different factors. It found that the Caucasian girls were obsessed with dieting and body image, the Puerto Rican girls were very attached to their friendships, and the Chinese girls based their self-esteem on how well they spoke English. I started noticing in the media and in casual conversations that Caucasian women cannot talk for more than five minutes without making some self-deprecating comment about their appearance or weight. The Chinese women I know do not talk weight or appearance, except in the context of health, as in, “You’ve lost a lot of weight, have you been sick?” So it wasn’t me, it was a cultural thing.

click on link for more: How to Raise Strong and Confident Asian Pacific American Daughters | InCultureParent

Friday, February 3, 2012

WCC Writing Class Saturday: Ethical Wills: Writing a Love Letter to Your Family Capturing Your Legacy

Teaching a writing class at Washtenaw Community College Saturday:
Ethical Wills: Writing a Love Letter to Your Family Capturing Your Legacy

Traditional wills distill our lives to a balance sheet of assets and liabilities but they do not fully capture the legacy of our values and experiences, our hopes and dreams that are the stuff we really want to pass down to our loved ones. Learn about ethical wills or Legacy Wills and begin writing a love letter to your family that can be shared now and treasured forever. As important for families with young children as for those with grown children or grandchildren. 2 sessions.

Bring a notebook and pen.

Ethical Wills: Writing a Love Letter to Your Family Schedule Information Section Space Date Day & Time Location CRN Instructor Cost Cart
1 Space available Feb 4, 2012 to Feb 11, 2012 Sat 10:00am to 12:55pm WCC Main Campus Business Education Building Room 160 14966 Frances Wang
Tuition
$49

click here for registration information: http://www.wccnet.edu/lifelong-learning/browse/view/category/writing-literature/

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Friends vs Relatives on Thanksgiving | Adventures in Multicultural Living | InCultureParent

My parents say that there is a Chinese saying (there is always a Chinese saying) about how distant relatives are not as good as nearby friends. To illustrate, they recall the time our car broke down on the winding and treacherous Pacheco Pass after midnight and how our neighbor, Mr. Shigematsu, came to rescue us and did not get home until after 2 a.m. Our relatives in distant Los Angeles or San Francisco could not have done anything to help because they were too far away.

Thanksgiving is a time of feasting and family, and people are traveling, cooking and cleaning like mad, trying to get to their families for four brief days. Because many of my children’s friends are from international families and do not have extended family close by, I like to gather up all our friends and celebrate “Thanksgiving Eve” the night before with a big potluck of what turns out to be the most amazing spread of foods from around the world — teriyaki turkey, sticky rice stuffing, butternut squash Thai curry, chicken biriyani, babaganoush, tabbouli, lasagna, shrimp and broccoli, mangoes and black sticky rice, Thai pumpkin custard and more.

click on link for more: Frances Kai-Hwa Wang | InCultureParent

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Adventures in Multicultural Living: Citizenship questions on Mother's Day for President Obama, Wong Kim Ark, Superman and the 'birthers'

My oldest daughter was almost born in Thailand. I was living in Kathmandu, Nepal, at the time, and the closest western hospitals were a day’s flight away in Bangkok. I loved cruising Bangkok Chinatown, and I thought that would be a fun way to spend a month, hanging out, waiting for the blessed event.

My mother said absolutely not. I had to go home to deliver the baby so that the child would be a U.S. citizen.

I tried to explain to my mother that the child of two U.S. citizens is automatically a U.S. citizen, no matter where she is born. Even the child of one U.S. citizen is a citizen. I had already checked with the U.S. Embassy.

“What do they know?” was my mother’s response.

And the kicker, “What if your child wants to be president of the United States one day?”

I thought my mother was needlessly worried, but since it was the Christmas season, it was just as easy to go home to California and have the baby among family and friends (and presents). Of course my mother was right.

Now, after President Barack Obama has released his long-form birth certificate to prove yet again that he is a natural-born citizen — which is still not enough to assuage the "birthers" — I see, once again, that my mother is always right. (Happy Mother’s Day!)

click on link for more Citizenship questions on Mother's Day for President Obama, Wong Kim Ark, Superman and the 'birthers'

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Weak in the Knees: Revisiting the “Nice Chinese Boy”_Orgasmic_百度空间

Today is Black Day. Found my old "Weak in the Knees" article reprinted on two sites called hi.baidu.com/orgasmic/blog and yellowvirile.com. I'm not sure I know how I feel about that. Yellowvirile.com seems to be a dead blog, but it is full of Asian stud cheesecake pictures well worth a gander.

Weak in the Knees: Revisiting the “Nice Chinese Boy”_Orgasmic_百度空间

Yellow Virile » Taking an appreciative second look at Beautiful Asian Men

Friday, March 11, 2011

Tsunami

My parents are fine, thanks to everyone who asked. The tsunami was just under 3 feet tall when it finally hit where they live, nothing to worry about. I'm really starting to understand how twitter works with breaking news.

Friday, June 4, 2010

Adventures in Multicultural Living: Ya'ssoo Greek Festival this weekend at St. Nicholas Greek Orthodox Church - AnnArbor.com

My children and I attend a lot of cultural festivals, so my children are cultural festival connoisseurs the way other more normal people might be connoisseurs of gourmet food or fine art. It is a rare festival that holds the children’s attention year after year, even as they get older and begin to outgrow some of the things they used to love when they were younger.

The Ya’ssoo Greek Festival of Ann Arbor is one of those events that the children continue to cherish, in part because it is our chance to learn a little more about the children’s Greek heritage, in part to see their friends and classmates dance, and in part (ok, in large part) because of the food! As the blue and white signs have been popping up all over town these past few weeks, the anticipation (and salivation) has been steadily building, especially as we drive past St. Nick’s beautiful copper dome on Scio Church Road. (click on link for more)

Ya'ssoo Greek Festival this weekend at St. Nicholas Greek Orthodox Church - AnnArbor.com