I was turned down for a grant application today, but what a gift to get comments!
There is so much I love about your work, particularly the way you've illustrated the legacy of family and tradition while rooting it all in this very specific time. Your prose is both detailed and spare, dazzling at times. The repetition in "Learning to Drive Defensively" is incredibly powerful. And yes to this: "I write myself into existence every day." Yours is an important voice that we all need to hear/read right now.
Your first piece--"Sowing Aunties"--is marvelous! Your deft weaving of tradition, voice, and prose that's humorous, and yet contains gravity, is really admirable.